None of us go into a marriage thinking that it could someday end. Almost everyone who enters into a marriage believes that it will be permanent. But for far too many of us our marriage can become broken and in need of repair. Over 48% of couples find themselves coping with a separation or a divorce, and when that happens the pain and emotional scars can last for years. If you are in a broken marriage and you feel as though you are struggling to hold on then there are a few things that you can do to repair the damage before it gets to the point where it can't be fixed. Let's talk about one tactic that you can use to repair a broken a marriage, or at least start.
One of the most common hot spots for couples is problem-solving. Problems arise in all marriages. Most couples are not prepared to handle conflict. When couples have not developed the proper tools to compromise - bad patterns are established. One pattern that develops often in marriages is the escalation of anger during an argument. Have you ever started a calm discussion with your spouse only to have it turn into a nasty shouting match before you realize it? The end result being uncontrolled anger and hurtful statements?
When you realize that things are heading in that direction, try using these three simple tactics to change the course of the argument.
- Back off, soften your response, don't be defensive.
- Acknowledge your partners perspective.
- Abandon the need to be right.
The benefit of learning to use these tactics are two-fold. It will not only help to diffuse an argument but it will also enable you and your spouse learn to problem solve as a team.
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