Can You Fix A Broken Marriage? How Do You Know If A Relationship Can Be Healed?

Are you more inclined to believe every problem in a marriage has a solution?  Or, do you feel helpless to fix what is broken in your relationship?  In every troubled marriage, there is an undeniable moment of truth when the reality that something needs to change is no longer avoidable.  It is this moment when you must decide if you are going to make a plan to save your marriage or if divorce is the path you are destined to take.

Taking a deep look into the problems in your relationship is the first place to start.  Sometimes viewing a marriage analytically offers a clearer picture and allows you to disentangle yourself from the web of emotional confusion so that you can form a plan of action.

Repairing the Relationship 

In her new book, "Deal Breakers," psychoanalyst Bethany Marshall outlines how men and women should decide when to continue working on a relationship and when to call it quits.   If you're unhappy with the other person, you have to define the problem, set a time limit and allow the other person to reach for solutions.  She has to step back to see if he does reach for it, instead of nagging. 

The assignment for both of you becomes: Find out what it is that makes you happy and decide how you can bring that home.  For every problem there is a solution. You can't just live for the promise of a future where things magically get better.

'Deal Breakers': How to Heal a Relationship - ABC News

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